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Getting married...and she says I have too much plastic! Advice?
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kyledstauffer
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Not so much starved for space as honeymoon money.
Anyway, I think I'm gonna go to bed...with my CE plastic
timothyasteele
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Clearly it's bothering her, but only because her habit of shoes and jewelry is outnumbered by your discs. I would add up all the value of her items, then your discs, and show her the ridiculous nature of the argument.
Now if she's the one paying for your discs, then she has a gripe. But I'm assuming you have no house, kids, or other major life responsibilities yet, so there is no reason for her to bring it up.
My wife brought it up last year jokingly, and I told her that since I support the whole family right now (house, car, 4 year old and 10 month old), unless she wants to go back to work, she she can never bring it up again. She apologized and that was that.
Tim S.
Now if she's the one paying for your discs, then she has a gripe. But I'm assuming you have no house, kids, or other major life responsibilities yet, so there is no reason for her to bring it up.
My wife brought it up last year jokingly, and I told her that since I support the whole family right now (house, car, 4 year old and 10 month old), unless she wants to go back to work, she she can never bring it up again. She apologized and that was that.
Tim S.
this is actually a funny topic to me...
as I basically have lived through it
the advice I give is that which I've learned to accept
I basically convinced my GF that it is just what I'm going to do, that it makes me happy and I can't see giving it up... I should also mention that I save quite a bit of $$, invest responsibly and pay most of the bills in our two family income household... so I see no issue here
there's much more to it than I am mentioning here but this is the condensed version
as I basically have lived through it
the advice I give is that which I've learned to accept
I basically convinced my GF that it is just what I'm going to do, that it makes me happy and I can't see giving it up... I should also mention that I save quite a bit of $$, invest responsibly and pay most of the bills in our two family income household... so I see no issue here
there's much more to it than I am mentioning here but this is the condensed version
came here to post this. also the point about the value of her collectibles vs. the value of yours.
however if you do need money for honeymooning, then i suggest you sell the discs you care least about. just make sure you PM me with the list before putting them in the marketplace. :thmbup:
She wants you to sell all your plastic, so she can get a bunch of shiny rocks and minerals, basically.
Then when you're miserable as HELL from having no fun playing disc golf, she'll leave you claiming you're a bummer to be around (Since you're not out flying discs), and she'll take off with her "plastic funded" collection of jewelry.
:doh:
I'm kidding. I know nothing of what I speak about.
Then when you're miserable as HELL from having no fun playing disc golf, she'll leave you claiming you're a bummer to be around (Since you're not out flying discs), and she'll take off with her "plastic funded" collection of jewelry.
:doh:
I'm kidding. I know nothing of what I speak about.
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If you're posting here asking our advice it's probably something you're not comfortable doing.
I have 49 discs to my name. All cheap throwers, back ups for cheap throwers, and random found discs, etc.
I by no means have a plastic collection, nor do I usually advocate having one.
But man this is a warning sign, if she's able to have her jewelry/shoes/whatever, but forces you to fund things by selling what makes YOU happy. :\
If she was funding your plastic habit and/or supporting you in the meanwhile, it'd be a different matter and I'd say sell the plastic. If you had kids/bills/responsibilities as a couple where you'd both have to sacrifice to get by, then sell the plastic.
Anything else is unreasonable in my opinion. :shrugsmiley:
I have 49 discs to my name. All cheap throwers, back ups for cheap throwers, and random found discs, etc.
I by no means have a plastic collection, nor do I usually advocate having one.
But man this is a warning sign, if she's able to have her jewelry/shoes/whatever, but forces you to fund things by selling what makes YOU happy. :\
If she was funding your plastic habit and/or supporting you in the meanwhile, it'd be a different matter and I'd say sell the plastic. If you had kids/bills/responsibilities as a couple where you'd both have to sacrifice to get by, then sell the plastic.
Anything else is unreasonable in my opinion. :shrugsmiley:
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Also, if you need to hide plastic from your fiance...that's a warning sign right there.
If you're planning on marrying this person, then there should be no secrets. If you have to hide stuff, man, you've got the wrong woman. :\
If you're planning on marrying this person, then there should be no secrets. If you have to hide stuff, man, you've got the wrong woman. :\
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My wife made me join a bridge club. I jump off next Tuesday.
I would say if she wants you to get rid of your cherished items, make her give up some of hers, jewlery, makeup, shoes, etc...
Smigles
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What is she, your mother ?
It's your money, you can do with it as you want.
Dont sell a single disc. Bring em all into the marriage. You can tell her that at least that way, you are less likely to buy more plastic soon.
And for heavens sake, dont let her boss you around. She can dictate how many discs you have when you can dictate how many shoes/handbags/lipsticks she brings.
ps : http://isthewiferight.com/
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ROFL!!!!!
Star Shark
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If she can't accept you for who you are and what you're into now, this will just be a point of contention later on in your relationship. Assuming she doesn't browbeat it out of you, in which case you'll end up resenting her for the rest of the marriage.
The best advice I can give you is don't sell (unless you really need/want the money to pay for the honeymoon). I haven been married for 2 years but we were together for 4 years before that and when I started playing as long as my bills and our needs were taken care of I would spend money on DG. When I do want a disc now I sell discs that I don't want/need/use to pay for the new one. Someone said give and take. If you already had this stuff then you shouldn't have to get rid of it. I mean its not like its a porn collection (unless she is into that) haha good luck dude. All women are crazy it just depends on if you can tolerate her crazy!
P.S. If you are going to sell some dips on your yellow KC Pro teebirds!
P.S. If you are going to sell some dips on your yellow KC Pro teebirds!
FredVegasDGC
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I know you love her and all that but honestly if you are starting off like this you are making her happy and yourself unhappy that doesn't sound like it's starting off too well.
I'm not talking about selling your plastic. Things come & go. One day you might get tired of it all and sell it anyway. Who actually needs a big collection of extra discs. But there is a difference between wanting to do something and feeling forced to do something.
But from what you have posted she doesn't respect your love of the game. Sure you may have some extra plastic. Everyone has hobbies and things they collect that give them joy. Eventually you will be "spending too much time with your DG buddies" and before you know it maybe 1 round a month. Then one day you realized you can't remember the last time you played.
You think I sound crazy?
I've seen it before. It may not have been with DG but this is not about making her happy. This is about her getting control of an aspect of your life she feels takes too much of your time and the first step is to reign in your hobby.
I watched you collect half your stash, you have some nice old oop stuff. I recently went through my own stash to see what I could get rid of and could only come up with 7 discs out of the entire collection, it's hard to let go of the stuff you had to search for.
dont part with the circles, those are way too hard to track down. sell some of the CE as they are hot now and keep your plastic hidden
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