So here's my happy ending update. I ended up getting my Star Wraith back, despite it not having a name marked on it. Thanks to the guys that found it and checked the local forum...huge Karma!!!
In the mean time, I had also bought a Dx and a Pro. In the Dx I looked for stiff plastic with no dome in a slightly heavier weight, hoping it would offset what people thougth would be a less stable disc. In the Pro, I looked for stiff plastic and ended up with a high time in a heavier weight (that's all there was). Here are some comparisons:
Star Wraith, 161g - medium dome, stiff plastic
Flies with a tight "s", very controllable when released for 350' of distance (controlled course release). I love this disc.
Pro Wraith, 169g - high dome, very stiff plastic
Slightly more overstable than the Star, which is understandable given the weight increase. Need to concentrate a bit more on release to get a controlled move, and still end up with a wider "s". Slightly less distance than the Star...consistently 330ish feet with controlled, course release (versus all out field).
Dx Wraith, 165g - flat, very stiff plastic
This was a huge surprise. This disc bombs! Very controllable, with the exact same flight as the Star but significantly more distance. With the same effort and release as the Star, I was consistently getting 380-400' (which is what I usually get in field practice with by best discs). This was a huge shocker for me. There were a few more at the shop that looked exactly the same in flex, weight and dome, so I will definitely be scooping them up and treating them carefully.
Really, really shocked at how good the DX was for me. Easily, my most controllable long distance driver.