Getting married...and she says I have too much plastic! Advice?

[Mr. Orange]

150 discs isn't that many, it is about the number that I have. My girlfriend who plays thought that there were too many around until I built some storage racks for them. Now that they aren't laying around its no problem.

 

[BrotherDave]

I would trade/sell her on the marketplace. What is she on the sleepy scale?

 

[KNole]

dump her

 

[emook]

grow a pair and stop asking for permission to do things. couple should be able to made decisions and do things they want with out fear the other wont let them.

 

[mike]

i have enough room in my garage for another 100 discs feel free to drop by....im 1.5-2 hrs from you..haha

 

[UKfan]

Two bits of advice from someone that has been married a long time:

1. Don't Do It.

2. Start out, like you want to hold out. In other words, don't be one way now, and then change back to yourself later. Let her see the real you and that you are not going to change. If she complains now, then this type of issue will always be an issue. It could be a symptom of future money arguments as well.

That is my two cents worth.

 

[kyledstauffer]

I would trade/sell her on the marketplace. What is she on the sleepy scale?

Sleepy scale...let's see, no ink, no major damage 9/10 easy

 

[ZAMson]

jesus h, lots of future awful husbands in here
i got married in september this past year and made a huge chunk off (a small portion) of my disc collection.

before the wedding i went thru my stash and identified the ones that would most easily add to our honeymoon funds -- quick easy high-margin sells. and i freakin ebayed them of my own accord. why? because my wife means more to me than having a stack of 4X Glows, or seven lifetime supplies of 11x FB. a few weeks of ebaying and some side work and i had built up the entire fund for our honeymoon, and i don't miss those discs one bit. still have plenty. got screwed on a few and didn't care at all -- i told myself i had to look at the big picture, and individual discs or their margins were not the big picture.

dude, it's freaking plastic! you NEED them? you'd rather be on a cheapskate honeymoon and know that when you get home, you're gonna have a bunch of circle stamps? really, what are your priorities? if you were good husband material, you woulda said, "hey baby, i've been collecting some frisbees for years and they're actually not a bad investment. i'm willing to sell off a portion of my stash to help with funds for the wedding and honeymoon. cool? cool."

while i was on my honeymoon, i could tally up what plastic i was spending. a $200 dinner, it cost me a bunch of used FB and TB that i put MAYBE $50 into. was i sad about it? no, felt like a champ! i spent lots of my bachelor money on collecting in the years before i met her and i was GLAD to cash it in for something more important. the fact that i did this for us meant a lot to her, it showed i was an adult for one thing. someday i might have to sell some plastic to make payments on our wedding bands, and i will, because i'm a grown-up.

 

[juju]

because i'm a grown-up.

 

[TmCHILLfromCEDARHILL]

jesus h, lots of future awful husbands in here
i got married in september this past year and made a huge chunk off (a small portion) of my disc collection.

before the wedding i went thru my stash and identified the ones that would most easily add to our honeymoon funds -- quick easy high-margin sells. and i freakin ebayed them of my own accord. why? because my wife means more to me than having a stack of 4X Glows, or seven lifetime supplies of 11x FB. a few weeks of ebaying and some side work and i had built up the entire fund for our honeymoon, and i don't miss those discs one bit. still have plenty. got screwed on a few and didn't care at all -- i told myself i had to look at the big picture, and individual discs or their margins were not the big picture.

dude, it's freaking plastic! you NEED them? you'd rather be on a cheapskate honeymoon and know that when you get home, you're gonna have a bunch of circle stamps? really, what are your priorities? if you were good husband material, you woulda said, "hey baby, i've been collecting some frisbees for years and they're actually not a bad investment. i'm willing to sell off a portion of my stash to help with funds for the wedding and honeymoon. cool? cool."

while i was on my honeymoon, i could tally up what plastic i was spending. a $200 dinner, it cost me a bunch of used FB and TB that i put MAYBE $50 into. was i sad about it? no, felt like a champ! i spent lots of my bachelor money on collecting in the years before i met her and i was GLAD to cash it in for something more important. the fact that i did this for us meant a lot to her, it showed i was an adult for one thing. someday i might have to sell some plastic to make payments on our wedding bands, and i will, because i'm a grown-up.

hahaha

Ok so coming from a married man, i would say stay away from this^^ type of stuff. You have to conserve the gestures of sweetness, so that when you do something sweet for her she will REALLY appreciate it! If money is the true issue behind all of this, then sell them. If she is the real problem behind this, then tell her to get over it! I wouldnt sell unless you just dont have the desire to collect any longer, but as for her telling you that you need to get rid of them....HAHAHA! I would belly laugh in her face and tell her yeah right!

Grow a pair...unless yall really need the money!

Be yourself, (which hopefully isnt a puss) and do what you want to do. Marriage is about compromise, so you meet in the middle on most things but there are some things that you will just not be able to compromise on.

Dont let her ever feel like she has forced you into something. If my wife asked me to sell my plastic, i would tell her no, even if i wanted to sell it, just so she doesnt think she runs the relationship. I dont care what others think, especially guys who use "marriage worthy" terminology, i am a man and i will do what i want, if she doesn't like it, there's the door!

And i have been happily married for 8 years. Toughen up sweet tits, tell her to back off!

 

[Norcal]

mountain, molehill.

Bottom line: Collecting discs is gay. As a collector, you shouldn't marry a woman.

 

[Thomas437]

Ill be happy to hold onto the collection for the duration of your marriage

 

[fasteddy8170]

A couple things . . . as we as men tend to do, we react to a situation like this logically and rationally: "Well, she has X amount in jewelry, he should be able to have the same amount in discs." And although this sounds very fair, it's not going to solve the problem. Because, in the female mind, she's hearing: "He thinks I have too much jewelry." And that just leads to an additional disagreement. My opinion is that the poster shouldn't try to compare his discs to her jewelry for this reason.

Second, my gut feeling is that his fiancee is trying to test him. Women do this. They want to see what kind of spine their man has. Maybe she's having doubts about their impending marriage, maybe she's having second thoughts, etc. . . . and one of the important things a woman wants to know is that her man has convictions and is willing to stand up for them . . .but do it politely. I would compare it to a woman who tries to change a man. Say, change his wardrobe. As soon as the guy goes along with it, she dumps him. Why? He failed the test and bent to her desires. He thinks he's cooperating whereas she sees it as him being wimpy.

Third, what would concern me is why a woman would mind a man having a hobby involving goals, competition, fitness, hanging out with other guys, nature, and that is relatively inexpensive. If I met a girl and, say, her hobby was biking . . . and she had 4 different expensive bikes but it got her outside, and kept her butt tight, and kept her happy, and stoked her competitiveness, and kept her healthy, and she made friends because of it, I would let her keep the bikes and even think about what I could do to help her pursue her passion. Why isn't this fiancee doing the same? See, the comparison--if we want to compare apples to apples--is not discing to jewelry and shoes, it's discing to any other sport/hobby that she might have that invokes being a well-rounded person. And, for me, I would support my woman in those kinds of pursuits--no matter the cost. His fiancee doesn't sound like that type of person. And if she were mine, it would bother me.

 

[ZAMson]

ya know, maybe my wife is so reasonable that i can't relate. she knows i won't be bossed and she's never done it. i had a bossy girl who might have done something like OP said, but i got rid of her. sold her collection of my stamps too, so there ya go.

i didn't sell my prized possessions by any means -- i would be highly opposed to selling some non-disc collections of mine. by taking ownership of the situation, i was able to sell only what i was comfortable selling.

so i guess if you're perceptive enough, you can head it off with collaboration before it even comes to a compromise. and also if you're perceptive enough, you'll know which women to kick to the curb.

 

[optidiscic]

Sleepy Scale for wives hmmmmm

all inked up
max weight
very beat up
unstable
multiple owners
old but not prized
yeah I'm thinking thats about the type of woman I'm gonna end up with

 

[baileyt1212]

I watched you collect half your stash, you have some nice old oop stuff. I recently went through my own stash to see what I could get rid of and could only come up with 7 discs out of the entire collection, it's hard to let go of the stuff you had to search for.

^ This!

 

[SoupD]

Been down this road! Didn't end good!!!

 

[keltik]

hide them in the trunk of your car. this worked for me until we started buying baby furniture.

 

[The dude on the bike]

Since the OP has a link to the marketplace, oh never mind.

 

[New013]

optidisc has it right.. agree to sell some discs and then find something she has a ton of and ask her to sell some of that stuff to also put it towards the honeymoon.