Am I taking this too serious?

[craftsman]

So I follow the code of ethics: pack in/out, no vandalism, call backs, etc....
A friend of mine doesn't. It's starting to effect our friendship outside of dg. It kinda started when I found a champ on a hole, gave a call- no answer, then turned it into the throw shop like my message stated. He was upset that I didn't give it to him- i don't toss innova so I usually give him the uninked. Then he got an ace and marked it. Then he found this kids disc (prob 7 or 8 years old) and said he d turn it in to the shop but didn't! I told him I was ashamed especially cause I just lost a disc on that hole and recieved a call. The next week I saw him with another one of the kids discs. I'm like come on! He lives close to the course and the kids cool, especially for being so young. The course is new and run by a respectable dg family so making the ace was bad enough. His thought is that he put finders keepers, losers weepers on his discs so he's even. WTF. Any suggestions? Remember Ive been friends with him before I even knew about dg

 

[billnchristy]

The question is, does this attitude carry over into every day life?

 

[discflinger]

Don't worry about it; karma will catch up with him.

 

[chalos13]

umm, that guy sounds like a d-bag. if he acts like that about other things outside disc golf, how did you guys become friends? respecting a course (trash etc) and people (returning discs) to me should be automatic. your momma taught you that, apparently this guy needs a whoopin.

 

[underpar24]

Don't worry about it; karma will catch up with him.

I agree

 

[craftsman]

He a stand up guy outside of dg. Just cheap. I've given him a med innova bag and discs. Our other friend said we should get him straps for x mas. I was like he'll no, maybe if he buys Marcus some new discs for x mas. I have an extra set of straps but he'll not be getting any more freebies from me. Is it that people without a lot of plastic don't call?

 

[simpletwist]

No you are not imho. I think you aren't taking it seriously enough. Confront him with his juvenile and immoral behavior. If he continues to be a D-bag, and lets be honest here, he is a d-bag; anyone who would takes not 1 but 2 discs from a little kid is a d-bag of the highest order, then it's time to get a new friend.

I know that might sound harsh and it might be tough but I've recently had to let go a friend that I've had for almost 40 years. Long story. But in the end my oldest friend and I had unreconcileable differences and so we are friends no more.

 

[craftsman]

Don't worry about it; karma will catch up with him.

That's what I was hoping but I don't have any aces andhe constantly beats me- he throws only oh and can get distance and accuracy with it- cheater jj

 

[Technohic]

Wait, do the discs he find say "finders keepers losers weepers" on them from the original owner writing it?

 

[craftsman]

No you are not imho. I think you aren't taking it seriously enough. Confront him with his juvenile and immoral behavior. If he continues to be a D-bag, and lets be honest here, he is a d-bag; anyone who would takes not 1 but 2 discs from a little kid is a d-bag of the highest order, then it's time to get a new friend.

I know that might sound harsh and it might be tough but I've recently had to let go a friend that I've had for almost 40 years. Long story. But in the end my oldest friend and I had unreconcileable differences and so we are friends no more.

Thanks. I can't seem to get over it.

 

[kerplunk]

I don't like cheap people, so if he is cheap and a d-bag on the DG course I say hang with this friend less.

 

[BrotherDave]

I'm like you, I try to return discs etc. If this guy is keeping discs that he KNOWS are somebody else, i.e. actually knows the owner of the disc than yeah he is a douche-tard. But if he keeps stranger's discs I'd say it's just a difference in philosophy, no reason to lose a friend over disc golf. Just keep calling him out on it while you play, you might get some strokes back

 

[Waddly Hobbins]

I don't think you are taking this too seriously. There really isn't a "in and outside of disc golf", disc golf is still part of the greater whole of life. Disc golf is not some "what happens in vegas, stays in vegas."

I personally do not have that many friends, this is in part because I have moved to a new area and also that I am extremely picky when it comes to the people I will surround myself with. To be my friend your moral code has to sync up with mine. Thieves, litterers,vandals, druggies, drunks, criminals, and general d-bags are crowds I do not involve myself in.

If I had I had a friend that started acting like yours, I would confront them. If after that, they continued with their behavior, I would probably stop hanging out with them. That's me though, I can't make life decisions for you.

 

[skinner21]

maybe just disc with him less. In my personal experience, someone who does stuff like this on the course tends to do other places as well and they're good at hiding it. If he knows the person's discs he is finding and keeps them, who's to say he won't do that when he "finds" something of yours? I've had friends like that in the past and it's never a good thing. I've had to cut ties with close friends and it sucks, but sometimes it's better not to accociate with people like that.

I don't know what your friend is like, but if it turns out this is who he truley is, then I say you're better off without him.

 

[Hellweg]

I have a friend who found my disc and wouldnt even give it back to me..

 

[waynewf]

Dude, your friend is a douche! Maybe not in every respect, but certainly in this aspect of his life. I would give him endless grief about this and I would screw with him on the course about it...basically I would bug him and annoy him until he did the right thing

 

[Waddly Hobbins]

I have a friend who found my disc and wouldnt even give it back to me..

That, my good sir, is not a friend.

 

[chain-addicted]

Yeah, I know a guy like this... He claims to be, "all about good disc Karma" yet this dude is a snake wen it comes to finding discs with other folks names on it. I know it will catch up with him someday though so I aint worried.

 

[solomon.trenton]

I have a friend who found my disc and wouldnt even give it back to me..

with friends like this (and one that steals discs from children) who needs enemies?

 

[duke6528]

What about the guys that go swimming in water hazards for discs? I know some people who will call you as long as they don't have to swim for them, but if they swim for them they consider the disc abandoned and keep them. Others feel they should recieve a couple of bucks if they find your disc and call. Is that normal?

Personally, I always call.