Respectfully, you're not a referee. Your cardmates and you work together to self enforce the rules.
And when it comes to enforcing rules, being sociable is not the objective. The balance you speak of is shown when rules are enforced in a respectful manner.
Read below re: legal "putt jumps".
The PDGA Rules Committee (RC) is trying to find a better way to handle the problem of calling jump putts legal or not. They have no agenda to either keep or get rid of jump putts, just solving the problem. It IS a problem based on high frame rate video where members of the RC tried to do jump and (Feldberg) walk thru putts legally. 'Yes' there are experienced jump putting pros in the RC. About 50% of the attempts were not legal where the disc was not released until the player was clearly off the ground much to the chagrin of some members who thought they were doing it legally.